Yes. I now have hate mail…or comments. Thanks to akismet, these comments will never see the light of day. I know everyone knows that I have this “Frankly, my dear…I don’t give a flying f**k” attitude. But let me tell you, blogfriends. Reading such hateful words can be very draining.
As you may have read in my past two entries, I have announced my happiness because of my Mark Darcy’s romantic gesture of asking me to marry him. I have received to date sincere comments from my closest friends and to bloggers whom I haven’t even met. These make me feel…well, happier.
When I was checking akismet-caught comments, I came across the usual spam. But in the sea of viagra and bondage ads, I saw these comments apparently made on my SONA, which described me as an abomination and a living curse for just being a homosexual and for even considering marrying a man. It was a Laramie moment for me. I actually cried reading such hatred. I have always accepted the fact that not all people share the same views about certain things. I have also acknowledged that bigotry exists. I have also learned to just ACCEPT dissenting opinions. But when I experienced it first hand, hatred and bigotry became more real–and it was heart-wrenching.
I do not know why I decided to write this or if there is any reason at all. I guess I just want to say that for the longest time, I now feel sad…and disappointed…and heart-broken…
Mare, we can’t please everybody. Kahit nga akets may mga hate comments paminsan-minsan na kesyo balyena daw kets chuchu. Hindi ko naman siya binabasa nang buo (ayoko namang sumakit ang ulo ko noh!), pero binubura ko siya with matching IP banning.
We all have our right to be happy, Mare. And I’m glad that you’ve found your happiness. Congratulations!
There are people in this world that have nothing better to do than spread hatred, sorry to say.
Don’t feel bad. This is a milestone in your life that should be celebrated.
With that said, I want to congratulate both of you on this happy occassion.
I’ve been following your blog for over a year now. Just came across it by accident as it was linked to nastypen’s which was linked to addie’s.
Anyway, you’ve got a fan here.
I was about to say,”Deadman na!” but we all know that’s easier said than done. I have received hate comments on my blog, too. Draining, yes though I was more bothered because I don’t recall having offended anyone at work or anywhere.
Anyway, do know that we are always here to support you all the way. Lovelots.
Oh Bridget, I’m just sorry that you had to read that piece of trash. Try not to eclipse your wedding elation with that. Some people are happy hurting other people which makes them pathetic and emotionally vampiric. They thrive on that as much as they thrive in ignorance.
We could preach tolerance and be on a path to a sunshiny world. But I don’t know, there are just some people out there that reminds me of a saying “you teach a dog new tricks, it’s still a dog to me.”
That’s why it is imperative that you dry those tears and walk away from that zone of infantile jibes. Your happiness is worth more than their catcalls of stupidity.
My darling, are you happy? Because that is all that matters, and not if other people are not happy with what we do or what we say or what we are. You don’t need to satisfy their twisted perception of what is right or wrong. It is our world, and they are merely spectators, if they do not like what they see, suggest that they go back to where they belong, in some dingy old dark place where they live a lonely pathetic life.
If all else fails, ban the biatch. 😛
Ditto to all of jher’s points!
Hi! I found your blog a few weeks and I have to say that your relationship is very new to me and I find it quite inspiring. The fact that you and your boyfriend are so open about your love for each other helps me to believe that faith, hope, and love still exists in the world whether between two men or a man and a woman.
I truly apologize for the close-minded people out there who have lashed out at you when you have done no wrong. I agree with your boyfriend, they are merely spectators, as we all are. We are not part of your world but there are many of us who have been touched by it. It is not out world to judge, so the person who lashed out at you can go to hell. :p
Congratulations and I also wanted to say thank you for bringing hope to my world especially during its dark days. Thank you for sharing what you have. 🙂
hi jerome. i’m back.
there are people whose understanding of the world is limited to the pre-set labels given by others and refuse to take the path of further education. while to some, homosexuals deserve all fire and brimstone labels, i chose to look at homosexuals as people who have made an honest admission of who they are, and struggle like the rest of us to be happy. not a lot can do that these days, admit who they are, what they are.
even bigots refuse to see themselves as such.
Huwag mo na lang silang pansinin.
They have so much hate kasi hindi sila happy sa buhay nila.
Love and Happiness to you and Jher!!!
Hay, darling, inggit lang ang mga hitad na iyan. Buntot mo, hila mo. Anuman ang gawin natin sa buhay natin as long as na masaya tayo, keber sa kanila. OO, natural lang na masaktan ka at maiyak pa nga dahil tao lang tayo hindi bato. Pero after noon nailabas na ang emosyon, smile na lang dear.
I only have 2 words:
(unconsciously) they envy you. you’re at the top of your game, you contribute to the national economy, and you are loved. even if the rules, laws and biases of the world work to their advantage, they still can’t find the love and attention they need. hate-mongers, let them be. otherwise there won’t be losers to laugh at.